Each baby and parent combo is totally unique and special to me. Each one is a challenge weather it be physically, logistically, or as in this story, emotionally. Each family is a joy in my life that brings me a gift of experience so I can better serve the next one I encounter. I think last week on this visit, my heart grew a little bit bigger.
This story is about beautiful twin boys, born early (around 26 weeks) who have been in the NICU, and the warrior parents by their side.
Lately I had the experience of working with a wonderful family who's babies were in the Brandon NICU Unit in University of Michigan Hospital. They called me up to help them master their wrapsody wrap with one of their babies, who is soon to be going home for the first time :)
For these parents of 2 preemies, the first taste of parenthood wasn't at all like they dreamed, and yet they have risen to meet their challenge with such grace. Mama is pumping here after a great session of breastfeeding, and daddy is topping big boy off with a bottle. As these little guys approached their 40 week gestational mark this guy was 7'9" this day.
Good Job to all! Mommy, Daddy and Brandon NICU Nurses and Doctors, look at those cheeks!!!! Mom and Dad were anxious to wrap. The both had purchased Wrapsody wraps before the birth and had attended Ann Arbor Babywearers in preparation to wrap their boys. On this day we could only wrap one baby, and our main goal was to take him over to visit his brother and to have some family time. Our other stated goal was to get both parents comfortable with their wraps and snuggling with their baby.
Mom went first, in Wrapsody Jandrea. We all agreed that she felt secure and relaxed in a front wrap cross carry, (as much as was possible) and the suggestion of daddy wanting to try was put off to later. I have noticed sometimes in my work with parents of preemies, that Babywearing can be a great way to help give the parents, often for the first time, the feeling and experience that they expected parenting to bring to them. A taste of having things be "normal" or as they expected, even for just a while.
As soon as we were done relishing in how awesome it felt to be wrapped up together, we took him to visit his brother. Mama said how nice it was to be able to hold both her babies as close as possible at the same time. It was a magic time as we all focused our energy and love on this little boy who needs our thoughts. Many nurses were following and watching us, they were all so loving and helpful.
Daddy finally convinced mommy that it was a good time to switch. Mom had a nice long talk into that isolette about how it was time to heal up really strong and come out to us, because mommy and daddy expected to have 2 babies to wrap, and he was so wanted and loved!!!
Daddy explaining to the nurses how the wrap feels and why he loves it. They were so interested, and more nurses were behind me watching.
We just popped his monitor down through the wrap and poked it out the bottom and wrapped over it. It worked really well :)
I brought them a ringsling as well, just to play with, and i gave them a little lesson and left it there for them to use, just in case they needed another tool in their belt.
Babywearing was a high point in these parents day, I think we all agreed on that before I left. Mama was right with both her boys, up close and I could tell that her spirits were lifted.
I am wishing with all of my heart, that everyone who reads this will send a thought out to this family. This is their wish, that and to share the gift of babywearing with other parents that are on this type of journey that might feel that it could help them.
Thank you so much to this Mama and Daddy for sharing your family’s brave story with us. Our goal was to show how beneficial babywearing can be in a NICU setting at the right moments.
I will update on this family as it is available. But for now, Send your good thoughts and prayers.