How We’re Celebrating Our Twins’ 3rd Birthday When One of Our Birthday Boys Is No Longer Here

Please enjoy this wonderful post below from my dear client and friend. The link at the bottom of the article on what not to say to bereaved parents is extremely helpful for those who are encountering an experience with a friend or family members loss of a child.

You can read all about the Canvasser Family Babywearing Journey in the links to my previous posts below, but for now, please scroll down and enjoy Jennifer’s wise words.

Mom went first, in Wrapsody Jandrea. We all agreed that she felt secure and relaxed (as much as was possible) and the suggestion of daddy wanting to try was put off to later.  I have noticed sometimes in my work with parents of preemies, that Babywearing can be a great way to help give the parents, often for the first time, the feeling and experience that they expected parenting to bring to them.  A taste of having things be "normal" or as they expected, even for just a while.

Mom went first, in Wrapsody Jandrea. We all agreed that she felt secure and relaxed (as much as was possible) and the suggestion of daddy wanting to try was put off to later. I have noticed sometimes in my work with parents of preemies, that Babywearing can be a great way to help give the parents, often for the first time, the feeling and experience that they expected parenting to bring to them. A taste of having things be “normal” or as they expected, even for just a while.

you can read about the canvassers babywearing journey in my previous posts:

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2012/04/28/sometimes-in-rising-to-meet-a-challenge-we-find-deeper-love-than-ever-before/

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2012/05/02/look-whos-home/

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2013/01/11/today-i-celebrate-life-micahs-rainbow/

MicahSmiles

My twin boys, Micah and Zachary, have their 3rd birthday coming up, and like most moms, I’m thinking about what kind of cake to bake and how to celebrate their special day. But, unlike most moms, Go BlueI’ll be celebrating my twins’ birthday with only one of my twins in my arms because the other twin only lives in my heart.

A month before Micah and Zachary’s first birthday, Micah passed away from complications of necrotizing enterocolitis. The loss of Micah is devastating. A piece of myself died with my son. Still, I am incredibly blessed because I have beautiful Zachary, a superman husband, a rockstar mom, and an amazingly supportive community.

As any parent can imagine, I was a disaster in the days, weeks and months after Micah’s passing. I had to relearn how to eat, breathe and sleep without Micah. Once I could handle these basic tasks of living…

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Beautifully Embracing Challenges with Cleft Lip/Palate

This amazing family agreed to share their story here with us all and I hope it finds those who need it.

Being born with some form of cleft lip or palate is the 4th most common birth surprise a parent can receive on birth-day (or ultrasound day).  A cleft lip can be fixed very young in life, but a cleft palate needs for the baby to be a bit older before the surgery can take place.  This family had a safe beautiful home birth, and then took their baby to the hospital to be diagnosed.

I was called in just to help this experienced mom of 4 to use a wrap with her new little man, so she can keep him extra close for bonding and development. He, like many other babies with a cleft, but not all, has some other issues, including heart problems, so wearing him close will help his body to function more easily and allow the wearers body to do some of his bodies moment to moment work.  Through being worn he can develop with less effort from his own body, and the help of his mother and possibly reduce his effects over time.

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One Love Wrapsody Bali Stretch Hybrid exclusive to Elephant Ears. A Perfect snuggly first wrap.

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We were having this session in their home 3 days after birth.

talking to other children on the phone, and all around taking care of everybody at once is made so much easier with some solid wrapping skills.

talking to other children on the phone, and all around taking care of everybody at once is made so much easier with some solid wrapping skills.

Breastfeeding a baby with a cleft ca be challenging, but not impossible bay any stretch of the imagination.  Look at this amazing pair working it all out after only 3 days.  Mom is also pumping and bottle feeding.

Breastfeeding a baby with a cleft can be challenging, but not impossible by any stretch of the imagination. Look at this amazing pair working it all out after only 3 days. Mom is also pumping and bottle feeding.

Having a bilateral cleft palate is a hefty challenge that this little man seems to be ready to take on.

Having a bilateral cleft palate is a hefty challenge that this little man seems to be ready to take on, with his amazing family.

This mom was also very experienced with a ringsling, but we practiced a new hold to her, a tighter tummy to tummy hold that will support her little ones breathing and body perfectly.

This mom was also very experienced with a ringsling, but we practiced a new hold to her, a tighter tummy to tummy hold that will support her little ones breathing and body perfectly.  This is a Girasol Elephant Ears exclusive heaven on earth ring sling converted by metamorphasis carriers.  We tucked the tail of the ring sling between the body and the rings to cushion babies head as he turned back and forth in his sleep.

Overall, mom felt really comfortable and happy with her wrap by the end of our visit.

Overall, mom felt really comfortable and happy with her wrap by the end of our visit.

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Babywearing can protect you, your family, and your baby from unwanted casual inquiry about your babies situation. I have worked with many families with babies with a cleft, and all have used baby carriers as a way to move about the world with their babies being viewed first and foremost as perfect and normal babies, which is what they are. Babywearing offers protection and control, among many other things we have explored on this blog over the years.

I want to thank this beautiful  family again, for their willingness to open thier lives and their story to the world.  I hope to have many follow up visits and posts about this lovely little man and his amazing parents, brothers (one below), and sister.

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Triplets and a Big Sister!!

When I arrived, I found 3 sleeping Babies (and a sleeping toddler) and 3 Very Happy looking Caregivers!

When I arrived, I found 3 sleeping Babies (and a sleeping toddler) and 3 Very Happy looking Caregivers!  But then we started waking them up.

This is Mom and Grandma with the two boys.  Sisters were still sleeping and we played with the boys in the carriers first.  We all talked about our goals.  This mama had been given many carriers and this visit from me as a gift from a dear sweet family member who is a babywearing enthusiast.  This amazing mom of 6 week old triplets and one 22 month old was determined to explore her options in babywearing and to try everything.  So thats what we did!

She was hands free and happy in no time in a gauze wrap.  worn in a front wrap cross carry.

She was hands free and happy in no time in a gauze wrap. worn in a front wrap cross carry.

Babywearing creates such a  wonderful opportunity for one on one closeness and special time.

Babywearing creates such a wonderful opportunity for one on one closeness and special time.

Then Daddy tried on a Beco Butterfly

Then Daddy tried on a Beco Butterfly.  They were comfy and happy!

We added in some of the carriers that I brought over.  The chimparoo Mei Tai is a wonderful mei tai that has adjustable drawstrings allowing you to size the body appropriate to the baby.

We added in some of the carriers that I brought over. The chimparoo Mei Tai is a wonderful mei tai that has adjustable drawstrings allowing you to size the body appropriate to the baby.

 

We played Musical Carriers and switched babies every time the mood struck.  Triplets are so much fun!

We played Musical Carriers and switched babies every time the mood struck. Triplets are so much fun!

This couple was rising to the challenge of having 3 babies and a toddler beautifully.  They we exuding confidence and trying their best to use all of the resources that were offered to them. They Were inspiring and fun and I was so impressed with all of the love in their home.

Grandma was glowing with pride for her babies, and I think she has caught the babywearing bug. :)  This is wrapsody Kai, and little girl triplet. :)

Grandma was glowing with pride for her babies, and I think she has caught the babywearing bug. 🙂 This is wrapsody Kai, and little girl triplet. 🙂

I was, of course, I Heaven.  Isn't she a doll?

I was, of course, In my own kind of Heaven. Isn’t she a doll?

Then, Big sister woke up toward the end of my visit and put the icing on the cake of our wonderful day.  Here she is with her mama, in a babyhawk.

Then, Big sister woke up toward the end of my visit and put the icing on the cake of our wonderful day. Here she is with her mama, in a babyhawk.

Over all, we explored and tried on the following carriers:  Beco Butterfly, Moby Wrap, Wrapsody Wraps, Sleeping Baby Productions Ringsling, Chimparoo Meitai, an Original Ergo Carier and a Babyhawk Meitai. We had a blast, and I think that these parents felt empowered by their new arsenal of powerful tools for their life journey with 4 babies!

Love and Babywearing to all those expecting triplets!

Today I Celebrate Life – Micah’s Rainbow

Today is the day that we have set aside to say goodbye to one of the most amazing little men I have ever met.

Micah Canvasser –  an angel who brought love and endless inspiration that will last my whole lifetime.

This beautiful photo was edited by on of Mom's dear friends to remove the lines and tubes from Micah's beautiful face

This beautiful photo was edited by on of Mom’s dear friends to remove the lines and tubes from Micah’s beautiful face

You can catch up with my relationship with this client in these previous posts:

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2012/01/01/contagious-babywearing-passion-twin-edition/

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2012/04/28/sometimes-in-rising-to-meet-a-challenge-we-find-deeper-love-than-ever-before/

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2012/05/02/look-whos-home/

Micah and his Twin Brother Zachary, his Parents Jennifer and Noah, and all of their close family surrounding them, have been using babywearing to multiply in front of my eyes the joy that they experience with each other  in the unique situation that they are living through.

In order to wrap this family, Mom, Dad, Twin, Grandmas, Grandpas, Aunts, Uncles and Cousins in Love and Support  We have designed an Exclusive girasol together that we have named Micah’s Rainbow and will be offered to the world soon through preorder at elephantearsonline.com.  The preorder will be announced shortly, and the wraps are projected by girasol to arrive to us in June/July.  Proceeds from Micah’s Rainbow will be donated to “Micha’s Smiles”  a fund set up in Micah’s name to contribute to the University of Michigan Mott Hospital, where Micah lived most of his life.

Here is the Image of Micah's Rainbow.  The colors are a tribute to the hospital where he lived most of his life, and the rainbow at the top represents teh joy that every little life that we love brings to us, no matter how long we have the pleasure of their company.

Here is the Image of Micah’s Rainbow. The colors are a tribute to the hospital where he lived most of his life, and the rainbow at the top represents the joy that every little life that we love brings to us, no matter how long we have the pleasure of their company.

 

Oh, Micah.  It was Just too short a time for me.  I am looking forward to your Life Celebration Today.  I know it will be beautiful, just like you.  We have all been asked to wear Rainbows and Bright colors for the occasion.  I promise to be happy knowing you are at peace. even though I cannot help feeling sad inside.

My heart goes out this moment and every moment to all who have lost a child.  It is Our hope, The Canvasser Family and the Morse Family – That this wrap can comfort all who have lost, in some small way.

Baby Boy Fights, and Amazes Us All!

 

If you scroll back to the spring, you might recall a couple who’s baby boys arrived a bit earlier than expected.  Last we left them, one was home with his parents, and the other was living in the hospital.  Lets Check In Again!

Look at his sweet smile as he is cooed at by his loving grandma! He is growing stronger every day and as happy as any baby you will ever meet.

 

Mommy and Sons spend all day together with loving family and friends going to and from the University of Michigan Hospital. The Nursing Staff has been Really amazing on this journey, and all involved with this beautiful family send their Love and Thanks to Baby Boy’s Amazing Nurses!!!!!!

I’ll be back with Pictures of his brother in a day or 2!!!  They are quite a happy pair of boys, with the most amazing strong family I have ever had the pleasure to work with!

Look Who’s Home!!!

Thats Right!  Quick Update!!

Look who has been home for a few days now and came in with his beautiful family to see us at Elephant Ears!

 

Now that one brother is home from the NICU, these parents are focused on the three of them helping his twin brother pull all of his strength together and join him at home.

All of us involved in this journey, would just like to say, that Babywearing has been such a gift during the transition from hospital to home.

Please send all of the thoughts and comfort that you have to spare – to little baby twin brother, who is still to come home to his family.

My your healing be swift.

 

Sometimes in rising to meet a challenge, we find deeper love than ever before.

Each baby and parent combo is totally unique and special to me.  Each one is a challenge weather it be physically, logistically, or as in this story, emotionally.  Each family is a joy in my life that brings me a gift of experience so I can better serve the next one I encounter.  I think last week on this visit, my heart grew a little bit bigger.

This story is about beautiful twin boys, born early (around 26 weeks) who have been in the NICU, and the warrior parents by their side.

Lately I had the experience of working with a wonderful family who's babies were in the Brandon NICU Unit in University of Michigan Hospital. They called me up to help them master their wrapsody wrap with one of their babies, who is soon to be going home for the first time 🙂

For these parents of 2 preemies, the first taste of parenthood wasn't at all like they dreamed, and yet they have risen to meet their challenge with such grace. Mama is pumping here after a great session of breastfeeding, and daddy is topping big boy off with a bottle. As these little guys approached their 40 week gestational mark this guy was 7'9" this day.

Good Job to all! Mommy, Daddy and Brandon NICU Nurses and Doctors, look at those cheeks!!!! Mom and Dad were anxious to wrap. The both had purchased Wrapsody wraps before the birth and had attended Ann Arbor Babywearers in preparation to wrap their boys. On this day we could only wrap one baby, and our main goal was to take him over to visit his brother and to have some family time. Our other stated goal was to get both parents comfortable with their wraps and snuggling with their baby.

Mom went first, in Wrapsody Jandrea. We all agreed that she felt secure and relaxed in a front wrap cross carry, (as much as was possible) and the suggestion of daddy wanting to try was put off to later. I have noticed sometimes in my work with parents of preemies, that Babywearing can be a great way to help give the parents, often for the first time, the feeling and experience that they expected parenting to bring to them. A taste of having things be "normal" or as they expected, even for just a while.

As soon as we were done relishing in how awesome it felt to be wrapped up together, we took him to visit his brother. Mama said how nice it was to be able to hold both her babies as close as possible at the same time. It was a magic time as we all focused our energy and love on this little boy who needs our thoughts. Many nurses were following and watching us, they were all so loving and helpful.

Daddy finally convinced mommy that it was a good time to switch. Mom had a nice long talk into that isolette about how it was time to heal up really strong and come out to us, because mommy and daddy expected to have 2 babies to wrap, and he was so wanted and loved!!!

Daddy explaining to the nurses how the wrap feels and why he loves it. They were so interested, and more nurses were behind me watching.

We just popped his monitor down through the wrap and poked it out the bottom and wrapped over it. It worked really well 🙂

I brought them a ringsling as well, just to play with, and i gave them a little lesson and left it there for them to use, just in case they needed another tool in their belt.

Babywearing was a high point in these parents day, I think we all agreed on that before I left. Mama was right with both her boys, up close and I could tell that her spirits were lifted.

I am wishing with all of my heart, that everyone who reads this will send a thought out to this family.  This is their wish, that and to share the gift of babywearing with other parents that are on this type of  journey that might feel that it could help them.

Thank you so much to this  Mama and Daddy for sharing your family’s brave story with us.  Our goal was to show how beneficial babywearing can be in a NICU setting at the right moments.

I will update on this family as it is available.  But for now, Send your good thoughts and prayers.