An Inspiring Detroit Twin Mama, a Light Twingo Review, and little Social Justice Commentary.

 

twin girls 9 months adjusted in a twingo baby carrier

This Mama has 5 children, the newest of which are these twin girls, born 3 months early. Here she is wearing the New and amazing Twingo, the newest addition to my teaching and lending library.

 

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The Twingo carrier is color coded, and works with twins and close age babies, like mine were!!! Can you imagine all the trouble that I would have been saved by having this 5 years ago!!?!

Here I am tandem wearing a ton of different ways in this old post.

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I see looking back how many moms were coming to my group to learn tandem wearing, and how I ended up focusing on that in my private practice these days.  Man I would have rocked a Twingo so many times a day, like this mama above did to vacuum!

Because of the twins being 3 months premature this mama encountered a lot of barriers to breastfeeding and bonding with her babies in their early days.  Wearing the babies brings them back together and reclaims some of that time together lost to the hospital stay.

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The whole Family is really interested in using the carriers and participating with the Babies.

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The Twingo was cool to the older siblings because they saw their mom use it all as one carrier for both babes, and then they broke it down and were both able to use it to put the twins on their backs while they went back to their business.   These baby girls are sweet natured and aren’t prone to long bouts of crying, so the carriers were mostly interesting to this family for their hands-free benefits.

 

babywearing in a mei tai style baby carrier

When working with twins, especially on a third visit, I often have the opportunity to grab a snuggle.

 

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This mama is still healing from the trauma of the premature birth experience.  We discussed wrapping one twin on the front in her preferred single baby carrier,  The One Love Wrapsody Hybrid, for at least one hour a day and just singing and rocking and hugging and holding each other.  This creates some of the chemical reactions that take place during breast feeding which will hopefully help to speed up some of the emotional healing needed after a journey like this.

Ultimately I left totally inspired by this mama and her older children and their home that they have created.  I hope that this visit finally addressed how this family really wanted to use baby carriers.  I think I had gone in assuming the first and second time that the babies must be needing to be carried more or one must have hight needs, but the truth here is, that the Wearing in this case is mostly for the healing of the older members of the family, especially the mama, and that the babies are already doing optimal and amazing and are content and sleep regularly and don’t cry regularly for any reason.

It really was amazing to hear this mama’s birth story, and it reminded me that Systemic Racism is real ( http://racism.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=1114:racial-discrimination04&catid=88&Itemid=274&showall=&limitstart=4 ) , and that I want to change the public health system so that everyone has access to a baby carrier, because closeness is a powerful and healing  right, not just for the financially privileged.

 

How We’re Celebrating Our Twins’ 3rd Birthday When One of Our Birthday Boys Is No Longer Here

Please enjoy this wonderful post below from my dear client and friend. The link at the bottom of the article on what not to say to bereaved parents is extremely helpful for those who are encountering an experience with a friend or family members loss of a child.

You can read all about the Canvasser Family Babywearing Journey in the links to my previous posts below, but for now, please scroll down and enjoy Jennifer’s wise words.

Mom went first, in Wrapsody Jandrea. We all agreed that she felt secure and relaxed (as much as was possible) and the suggestion of daddy wanting to try was put off to later.  I have noticed sometimes in my work with parents of preemies, that Babywearing can be a great way to help give the parents, often for the first time, the feeling and experience that they expected parenting to bring to them.  A taste of having things be "normal" or as they expected, even for just a while.

Mom went first, in Wrapsody Jandrea. We all agreed that she felt secure and relaxed (as much as was possible) and the suggestion of daddy wanting to try was put off to later. I have noticed sometimes in my work with parents of preemies, that Babywearing can be a great way to help give the parents, often for the first time, the feeling and experience that they expected parenting to bring to them. A taste of having things be “normal” or as they expected, even for just a while.

you can read about the canvassers babywearing journey in my previous posts:

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2012/04/28/sometimes-in-rising-to-meet-a-challenge-we-find-deeper-love-than-ever-before/

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2012/05/02/look-whos-home/

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2013/01/11/today-i-celebrate-life-micahs-rainbow/

MicahSmiles

My twin boys, Micah and Zachary, have their 3rd birthday coming up, and like most moms, I’m thinking about what kind of cake to bake and how to celebrate their special day. But, unlike most moms, Go BlueI’ll be celebrating my twins’ birthday with only one of my twins in my arms because the other twin only lives in my heart.

A month before Micah and Zachary’s first birthday, Micah passed away from complications of necrotizing enterocolitis. The loss of Micah is devastating. A piece of myself died with my son. Still, I am incredibly blessed because I have beautiful Zachary, a superman husband, a rockstar mom, and an amazingly supportive community.

As any parent can imagine, I was a disaster in the days, weeks and months after Micah’s passing. I had to relearn how to eat, breathe and sleep without Micah. Once I could handle these basic tasks of living…

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Triplets and a Big Sister!!

When I arrived, I found 3 sleeping Babies (and a sleeping toddler) and 3 Very Happy looking Caregivers!

When I arrived, I found 3 sleeping Babies (and a sleeping toddler) and 3 Very Happy looking Caregivers!  But then we started waking them up.

This is Mom and Grandma with the two boys.  Sisters were still sleeping and we played with the boys in the carriers first.  We all talked about our goals.  This mama had been given many carriers and this visit from me as a gift from a dear sweet family member who is a babywearing enthusiast.  This amazing mom of 6 week old triplets and one 22 month old was determined to explore her options in babywearing and to try everything.  So thats what we did!

She was hands free and happy in no time in a gauze wrap.  worn in a front wrap cross carry.

She was hands free and happy in no time in a gauze wrap. worn in a front wrap cross carry.

Babywearing creates such a  wonderful opportunity for one on one closeness and special time.

Babywearing creates such a wonderful opportunity for one on one closeness and special time.

Then Daddy tried on a Beco Butterfly

Then Daddy tried on a Beco Butterfly.  They were comfy and happy!

We added in some of the carriers that I brought over.  The chimparoo Mei Tai is a wonderful mei tai that has adjustable drawstrings allowing you to size the body appropriate to the baby.

We added in some of the carriers that I brought over. The chimparoo Mei Tai is a wonderful mei tai that has adjustable drawstrings allowing you to size the body appropriate to the baby.

 

We played Musical Carriers and switched babies every time the mood struck.  Triplets are so much fun!

We played Musical Carriers and switched babies every time the mood struck. Triplets are so much fun!

This couple was rising to the challenge of having 3 babies and a toddler beautifully.  They we exuding confidence and trying their best to use all of the resources that were offered to them. They Were inspiring and fun and I was so impressed with all of the love in their home.

Grandma was glowing with pride for her babies, and I think she has caught the babywearing bug. :)  This is wrapsody Kai, and little girl triplet. :)

Grandma was glowing with pride for her babies, and I think she has caught the babywearing bug. 🙂 This is wrapsody Kai, and little girl triplet. 🙂

I was, of course, I Heaven.  Isn't she a doll?

I was, of course, In my own kind of Heaven. Isn’t she a doll?

Then, Big sister woke up toward the end of my visit and put the icing on the cake of our wonderful day.  Here she is with her mama, in a babyhawk.

Then, Big sister woke up toward the end of my visit and put the icing on the cake of our wonderful day. Here she is with her mama, in a babyhawk.

Over all, we explored and tried on the following carriers:  Beco Butterfly, Moby Wrap, Wrapsody Wraps, Sleeping Baby Productions Ringsling, Chimparoo Meitai, an Original Ergo Carier and a Babyhawk Meitai. We had a blast, and I think that these parents felt empowered by their new arsenal of powerful tools for their life journey with 4 babies!

Love and Babywearing to all those expecting triplets!

Micah’s Rainbow Will Be Available For Pre-Order Soon!

Hello Friends!  Elephant Ears is Announcing That  Micah’s Rainbow Girasol Exclusive Will Be Available For Pre-Order From January 17th to January 28th!!!!

A link will appear here as soon as the pre-order goes live!

Here is the Image of Micah's Rainbow.  The colors are a tribute to the hospital where he lived most of his life, and the rainbow at the top represents teh joy that every little life that we love brings to us, no matter how long we have the pleasure of their company.

Here is the Image of Micah’s Rainbow. The colors are a tribute to the hospital where he lived most of his life, and the rainbow at the top represents the joy that every little life that we love brings to us, no matter how long or short we happen to have the pleasure of their company.

Today I Celebrate Life – Micah’s Rainbow

Today is the day that we have set aside to say goodbye to one of the most amazing little men I have ever met.

Micah Canvasser –  an angel who brought love and endless inspiration that will last my whole lifetime.

This beautiful photo was edited by on of Mom's dear friends to remove the lines and tubes from Micah's beautiful face

This beautiful photo was edited by on of Mom’s dear friends to remove the lines and tubes from Micah’s beautiful face

You can catch up with my relationship with this client in these previous posts:

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2012/01/01/contagious-babywearing-passion-twin-edition/

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2012/04/28/sometimes-in-rising-to-meet-a-challenge-we-find-deeper-love-than-ever-before/

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2012/05/02/look-whos-home/

Micah and his Twin Brother Zachary, his Parents Jennifer and Noah, and all of their close family surrounding them, have been using babywearing to multiply in front of my eyes the joy that they experience with each other  in the unique situation that they are living through.

In order to wrap this family, Mom, Dad, Twin, Grandmas, Grandpas, Aunts, Uncles and Cousins in Love and Support  We have designed an Exclusive girasol together that we have named Micah’s Rainbow and will be offered to the world soon through preorder at elephantearsonline.com.  The preorder will be announced shortly, and the wraps are projected by girasol to arrive to us in June/July.  Proceeds from Micah’s Rainbow will be donated to “Micha’s Smiles”  a fund set up in Micah’s name to contribute to the University of Michigan Mott Hospital, where Micah lived most of his life.

Here is the Image of Micah's Rainbow.  The colors are a tribute to the hospital where he lived most of his life, and the rainbow at the top represents teh joy that every little life that we love brings to us, no matter how long we have the pleasure of their company.

Here is the Image of Micah’s Rainbow. The colors are a tribute to the hospital where he lived most of his life, and the rainbow at the top represents the joy that every little life that we love brings to us, no matter how long we have the pleasure of their company.

 

Oh, Micah.  It was Just too short a time for me.  I am looking forward to your Life Celebration Today.  I know it will be beautiful, just like you.  We have all been asked to wear Rainbows and Bright colors for the occasion.  I promise to be happy knowing you are at peace. even though I cannot help feeling sad inside.

My heart goes out this moment and every moment to all who have lost a child.  It is Our hope, The Canvasser Family and the Morse Family – That this wrap can comfort all who have lost, in some small way.

Twin Update – She’s Having My Baby Edition

Hi all!  A few people have asked for an update on the wonderful couple that I was working with last year privately adopting twins.  THis was the special couple who was involved with the Oxygen Network TV show “She’s Having My Baby” that came through Elephant Ears and our lives near the end of last year.

Te episode aired as the Finale of the Series and our Featured Birth Mom’s name was Lindsay.  You can see a review here:  http://www.ivillage.com/im-having-their-baby-season-finale-review/6-a-483157

To close off the multiple success of this story, here is an actual screenshot I took of the episode at the end, of Mike and Julie with their Son and Daughter, happily wrapped on camera for all the world to see, in a Wrapsody Bali Stretch Hybrid Kai.  :)  It has been perfect as parenting can be, ever since.

To close off the multiple success of this story, here is an actual screenshot I took of the episode at the end, of Mike and Julie with their Son and Daughter, happily wrapped on camera for all the world to see, in a Wrapsody Bali Stretch Hybrid Kai. 🙂 It has been perfect as parenting can be, ever since.

I feel so inspired by all the beautiful adoption stories out there, as well as all the beauty of twin parenting.  My practice has seemed to bring me into so much contact with so much of both, and I am so eternally grateful to all of the families that share their experience with me so that I can become a better educator for all of the babies and parents-to-be that are out there, that are just looking for a little closeness.

Much Love