An Inspiring Detroit Twin Mama, a Light Twingo Review, and little Social Justice Commentary.

 

twin girls 9 months adjusted in a twingo baby carrier

This Mama has 5 children, the newest of which are these twin girls, born 3 months early. Here she is wearing the New and amazing Twingo, the newest addition to my teaching and lending library.

 

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The Twingo carrier is color coded, and works with twins and close age babies, like mine were!!! Can you imagine all the trouble that I would have been saved by having this 5 years ago!!?!

Here I am tandem wearing a ton of different ways in this old post.

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I see looking back how many moms were coming to my group to learn tandem wearing, and how I ended up focusing on that in my private practice these days.  Man I would have rocked a Twingo so many times a day, like this mama above did to vacuum!

Because of the twins being 3 months premature this mama encountered a lot of barriers to breastfeeding and bonding with her babies in their early days.  Wearing the babies brings them back together and reclaims some of that time together lost to the hospital stay.

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The whole Family is really interested in using the carriers and participating with the Babies.

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The Twingo was cool to the older siblings because they saw their mom use it all as one carrier for both babes, and then they broke it down and were both able to use it to put the twins on their backs while they went back to their business.   These baby girls are sweet natured and aren’t prone to long bouts of crying, so the carriers were mostly interesting to this family for their hands-free benefits.

 

babywearing in a mei tai style baby carrier

When working with twins, especially on a third visit, I often have the opportunity to grab a snuggle.

 

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This mama is still healing from the trauma of the premature birth experience.  We discussed wrapping one twin on the front in her preferred single baby carrier,  The One Love Wrapsody Hybrid, for at least one hour a day and just singing and rocking and hugging and holding each other.  This creates some of the chemical reactions that take place during breast feeding which will hopefully help to speed up some of the emotional healing needed after a journey like this.

Ultimately I left totally inspired by this mama and her older children and their home that they have created.  I hope that this visit finally addressed how this family really wanted to use baby carriers.  I think I had gone in assuming the first and second time that the babies must be needing to be carried more or one must have hight needs, but the truth here is, that the Wearing in this case is mostly for the healing of the older members of the family, especially the mama, and that the babies are already doing optimal and amazing and are content and sleep regularly and don’t cry regularly for any reason.

It really was amazing to hear this mama’s birth story, and it reminded me that Systemic Racism is real ( http://racism.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=1114:racial-discrimination04&catid=88&Itemid=274&showall=&limitstart=4 ) , and that I want to change the public health system so that everyone has access to a baby carrier, because closeness is a powerful and healing  right, not just for the financially privileged.

 

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How We’re Celebrating Our Twins’ 3rd Birthday When One of Our Birthday Boys Is No Longer Here

Please enjoy this wonderful post below from my dear client and friend. The link at the bottom of the article on what not to say to bereaved parents is extremely helpful for those who are encountering an experience with a friend or family members loss of a child.

You can read all about the Canvasser Family Babywearing Journey in the links to my previous posts below, but for now, please scroll down and enjoy Jennifer’s wise words.

Mom went first, in Wrapsody Jandrea. We all agreed that she felt secure and relaxed (as much as was possible) and the suggestion of daddy wanting to try was put off to later.  I have noticed sometimes in my work with parents of preemies, that Babywearing can be a great way to help give the parents, often for the first time, the feeling and experience that they expected parenting to bring to them.  A taste of having things be "normal" or as they expected, even for just a while.

Mom went first, in Wrapsody Jandrea. We all agreed that she felt secure and relaxed (as much as was possible) and the suggestion of daddy wanting to try was put off to later. I have noticed sometimes in my work with parents of preemies, that Babywearing can be a great way to help give the parents, often for the first time, the feeling and experience that they expected parenting to bring to them. A taste of having things be “normal” or as they expected, even for just a while.

you can read about the canvassers babywearing journey in my previous posts:

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2012/04/28/sometimes-in-rising-to-meet-a-challenge-we-find-deeper-love-than-ever-before/

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2012/05/02/look-whos-home/

https://closeathandbaby.wordpress.com/2013/01/11/today-i-celebrate-life-micahs-rainbow/

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My twin boys, Micah and Zachary, have their 3rd birthday coming up, and like most moms, I’m thinking about what kind of cake to bake and how to celebrate their special day. But, unlike most moms, Go BlueI’ll be celebrating my twins’ birthday with only one of my twins in my arms because the other twin only lives in my heart.

A month before Micah and Zachary’s first birthday, Micah passed away from complications of necrotizing enterocolitis. The loss of Micah is devastating. A piece of myself died with my son. Still, I am incredibly blessed because I have beautiful Zachary, a superman husband, a rockstar mom, and an amazingly supportive community.

As any parent can imagine, I was a disaster in the days, weeks and months after Micah’s passing. I had to relearn how to eat, breathe and sleep without Micah. Once I could handle these basic tasks of living…

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The Twin Journey – An Amazing Slice of How it Might Really Be.

Over the years, its been my honor to be involved in several family journey’s welcoming twins.  This beautiful family was amazing enough to let me document their experiences with babywearing, breast feeding, and their nicu stay.

We first met in Elephant Ears, our store, where we learned that they were expecting identical twin boys.  This amazing couple was eager to gain skills to help them handle 2 babies!

Mom and Dad were both eager to learn about baby carriers, car seats and everything baby.  Times 2.

Mom and Dad were both eager to learn about baby carriers, car seats and everything baby. Times 2.

Practicing every Sunday until they felt prepared, these devoted parents – to – be were slowly chipping away at the fear that can come with expecting multiples.

When the boys came, those skills came in handy.

When the boys came, those skills came in handy.

Here are mommy and daddy below snuggling up for a tube feeding of breast milk instead of the boys laying in bed.

mommy with one baby while daddy feeds the other.

mommy getting her tube feed hooked up with one baby while daddy does the other.

Baby carriers can really help make medical interventions like this tube feeding much more intimate and full of bonding.

Baby carriers can really help make medical interventions like this tube feeding much more intimate and full of bonding.

In between the NICU cycle of tests. feedings, naps, and diapers, Babywearing can help draw some of the normalcy back into the post partum period with twins in a medical environment

In between the NICU cycle of tests. feedings, naps, and diapers, Babywearing can help draw some of the normalcy back into the post partum period with twins in a medical environment

Joy, Pride, Closeness, LOVE.

Joy, Pride, Closeness, LOVE.

After a few weeks, everyone went home safe and started using their baby carrier skills to really help handle the logistics of 2 babies at once.

This ring sling carrier really helps with the logistics of feeding 2 babies.  wether it be breast feeding or bottle feeding as you see below.

This ring sling carrier really helps with the logistics of feeding 2 babies. wether it be breast feeding or bottle feeding as you see below.

Mommy or Daddy can pull off this move :)

Mommy or Daddy can pull off this move 🙂

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Building the confidence to care for twins in your home can be hard. I hope everyone can feel as inspired as I was by this amazing couple, that anyone can do it, with a little forethought and a little babywearing.

Twin Update – She’s Having My Baby Edition

Hi all!  A few people have asked for an update on the wonderful couple that I was working with last year privately adopting twins.  THis was the special couple who was involved with the Oxygen Network TV show “She’s Having My Baby” that came through Elephant Ears and our lives near the end of last year.

Te episode aired as the Finale of the Series and our Featured Birth Mom’s name was Lindsay.  You can see a review here:  http://www.ivillage.com/im-having-their-baby-season-finale-review/6-a-483157

To close off the multiple success of this story, here is an actual screenshot I took of the episode at the end, of Mike and Julie with their Son and Daughter, happily wrapped on camera for all the world to see, in a Wrapsody Bali Stretch Hybrid Kai.  :)  It has been perfect as parenting can be, ever since.

To close off the multiple success of this story, here is an actual screenshot I took of the episode at the end, of Mike and Julie with their Son and Daughter, happily wrapped on camera for all the world to see, in a Wrapsody Bali Stretch Hybrid Kai. 🙂 It has been perfect as parenting can be, ever since.

I feel so inspired by all the beautiful adoption stories out there, as well as all the beauty of twin parenting.  My practice has seemed to bring me into so much contact with so much of both, and I am so eternally grateful to all of the families that share their experience with me so that I can become a better educator for all of the babies and parents-to-be that are out there, that are just looking for a little closeness.

Much Love

Happy International Babywearing Week 2012!!!!

We had a wonderful Ann Arbor Babywearers Meeting yesterday.  So many people showed up to share their love of babywearing with each other and to celebrate the love of carrying babies close!

We had every kind of beautiful baby carrier in use today you could imagine.

3 moms of twins showed up today to wow us all. This new mama, and 2 of our experienced mamas to help her! She is wearing a moby wrap with a sleeping baby productions ringsling right over top. 🙂

Tiny faces!!!

 

I wish I could post a 360 shot of all of the wonderful interactions and happenings that were going on around me all the time through the meeting 🙂

This little guy was so happy to be joining his little brother up on mama!

 

Beautiful Wrapsody Brigid and a 7 week old peanut.

 

First Rucksack Carry in our Chimparoo Azure 🙂  it was a total success!!!

 

Beautiful 2 year old twins in a Wrap and a Kinderpack Carrier.

We all did a ton of playing with mei tai carriers yesterday. Lots of happy success in the room !!

In case you are wondering, this is what success looks like 🙂 Dolcino Mauritus.

 

International Babywearing Week had also come to Elephant Ears  by the time I got in to work:

Preparing for the arrival 🙂  by practicing with a doll in Elephant Ears beautiful Babywearing Center.

Miles and his mama hard at work.

 

Nothing makes me happier than to see a little baby walk through the store, right where it wants to be, and a mama looking like she is at peace with motherhood.

 

Baby Boy Fights, and Amazes Us All!

 

If you scroll back to the spring, you might recall a couple who’s baby boys arrived a bit earlier than expected.  Last we left them, one was home with his parents, and the other was living in the hospital.  Lets Check In Again!

Look at his sweet smile as he is cooed at by his loving grandma! He is growing stronger every day and as happy as any baby you will ever meet.

 

Mommy and Sons spend all day together with loving family and friends going to and from the University of Michigan Hospital. The Nursing Staff has been Really amazing on this journey, and all involved with this beautiful family send their Love and Thanks to Baby Boy’s Amazing Nurses!!!!!!

I’ll be back with Pictures of his brother in a day or 2!!!  They are quite a happy pair of boys, with the most amazing strong family I have ever had the pleasure to work with!

A Picture Song of all of the Twin Baby Nursing/Babywearing Positions I Have Ever Seen

I wanted to collect and keep in a single post pictures of twins nursing and nursing while babywearing.  Everything I’ve ever seen work for anybody during my time working with twins and twin parents.  Check back at the permanent sticky page at the top of the blog for updates!  Twins are a special gift with tons of success to be found in the challenge of raising two babies at once.

The first position I have seen work very often is called the “laid back” position. It is great in bed with pillows for support or as shown here in a glider, using the arm rests for support and with the footrest up.

Gravity works for you as it holds the baby to you and the pulling is reduced because baby is no longer fighting gravity to hold their head up. Baby feeds more upright reducing gas intake, and head support is provided by the sides of moms arm. mom should be well supported and relaxed, able to fully enjoy nursing.

Little boy is cross cradled and little girl is in a bit of a football hold. this one is good with littler babies.

Babies 5 months and up can often sit up and nurse while facing mom, sometimes holding the breast themselves 🙂

Here a Ringsling is helping me burp an hold one baby while nursing the other. The large Dutalier Cadenza really helps support all of this tandem nursing activity.

Here I am nursing one while wearing another in a Monte Grano Glider. My sling is an Elephant Ears exclusive Girasol.  I tucked the tail of the ringsling out of the way to reveal the baby and the nursing position , but the tail is great for coverage if you desire it.

Here I am using the sling for one baby, and getting her latched on while little boy waits for a minute.

Now baby boy joins in, and the sling allows you to relax and occasionally adjust a latch or a foot or grab a swig from a water bottle.

Here we are with a baby in a high rucksack carry on my back in a woven wrap. The scenario for this baby is, she just ate and now is thinking about falling asleep.  I put her on my back in a wrap and now I am hands free to feed and tend to her brother.

Say that the baby on your back got antsy and wouldnt let you sit there and nurse. you can step into a ringsling, spread it over the back over the babe, and load baby 2 on the front and you can nurse while walking around and swaying to soothe the baby on your back.  There is a video instructional for this move in my twin link on the sidebar.

Make sure if you are going to use a pillow to nurse, that it brings the baby all the way up to your breast level, not forcing you to hunch over. I’m not a big fan of nursing pillows, but I am a big fan of variety. It can be nice to have at the begining to use as shown, when the babies are really little to do a double football hold. Babies have their feet pointing back toward the back of the chair, fully supported on the U shaped pillow. A nursing pillow like this Little Star or 2 regular bed pillows will really help with this. Most Moms of twins that I go to are not finding their pillow to be helpful for very long. I actually have taken 3 various pillows away at the mothers request this year on home visits because the mothers felt they were totally unused.  I think it really depends on who you are.

I hope to continue to build this resource as I walk my path helping many moms of multiples along my way.  Please feel free to comment and I will post pictures of any new positions as the surface.

Tandem Nursing is an amazing adventure.  I am so glad to have walked this path, though not as a mom of twins, as a mom of children close in age, and I hope to support anyone on this journey, or hoping to be.

Happy Wearing!

Becca